Man Up...

There comes a time in life when even a woman has to "man up". We have to face that even the best laid plans often go awry. The storybook endings are just that. We often have to face the facts as they are, not how we would like them to be.

The control we thought we had often lies in others' hands. Choices that we make shape our destiny. The age old question come from the words of an old The Clash song, "Should I stay or should I go?" Either way, you gotta face the consequences. The severity of which depends on your emotional investment. Hurt a little now or a lot later... Cutting our losses to save one's own hide often deprives us of the ride of our lives, while sticking it out to the end often causes irreparable damage to the heart. The battle scars run deep. But the pay off of endurance is often the things fairy tale endings are made of. Giving that happily ever after feeling that every girl desires.

The ride is worth the price of admission. Enter at your own risk. Life is not responsible for any injuries that may occur during the ride as a result of the rider's failure to properly prepare. WARNING: You may experience the high that comes with living on the edge. You may experience sudden, bone shaking loss of control due to unforeseen pot holes, curves or sudden , steep drops in the road. Wearing a seat belt is highly recommended.

Just know that when you do exit the ride, you will be different than when you embarked. You will grab those tired ol', worn out boot straps and once again lift yourself above the din. Brush yourself off and trudge forward. Different in every way from when you started. Wiser than before. Carrying those lessons learned into the future so that the next time you step onto that thrill ride, you will be better prepared to land on your feet after the fall.

Man up. Lesson learned. Love always endures...It's the people that all too often fade.

Desperately Seeking Honesty...

hon·es·ty   /ˈɒnəsti/ Show Spelled[on-uh-stee] Show IPA
noun, plural -ties.
1. the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
2. truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.
3. freedom from deceit or fraud.

Thought I would give you the dictionary's definition since so many people these days seem to not know the meaning of the word.

At least that's the way it seems in the dating world.

There are levels of honesty in the dating underworld (or perhaps I should say levels of DIS-honesty).
1. The "No Truth in Advertising" Level...
*"I am divorced..I have no fiance', no live-in girlfriend or no girlfriend at all. I am single, I swear!!"

Who are you trying to convince here, me or yourself?

2. The "I'll tell her what she wants to hear in order to get what I want" Level... *"You're beautiful (ok..that one is true..lol). I feel a connection with you, this could be love."

But we haven't even met face to face yet! SERIOUSLY???

3. The "We're Just Friends" Level.. *"We hang out from time to time" "We kick it every now & then and btw, I can't return your text/call when we're kicking it" "Oh that's my friend calling, I gotta take this {click!!} That must be some friend!

That's just a glimpse into the pack of lies that are hurdled into our paths as we seek a partner. I didn't realize that dating was like gardening. Constantly pulling the weeds away so that when the flower rises, it can grow. Problem is, the flower often has weeds attached and it's hard to differentiate one from the other. You often uproot the good while trying to ward off the evil.